Of all the trials and tribulations of being a queer and / or trans person with a big breast, shopping for assertive shirts can be its own kind of hell. Trendy âandrogynousâ brands cost more than your auto insurance. The best thrift stores never have changing rooms. And supporting fast fashion sends you into an existential crisis of ethical consumerism under capitalism and everything pretentious people talk about on Twitter.
All the while you are naked. Maybe in your filing cabinet. Trying to find clothes to wear for your Kate Bush tribute party or other queer event is on your schedule. You want clothes that fit you. Clothes that feel good physically and emotionally. The outfits make you feel a bit more like yourself and hopefully don’t make you want to jump into the Arctic Ocean.
While buying button down shirts for large breasts comes with some hurdles, it also comes with community. Of course, right now you might be literally alone in the Gap in your hometown, feverishly looking for a top that doesn’t make you feel like you’re wearing a sexy librarian Halloween costume. But overall, you’re not the only one trying to find âmen’sâ clothing or general âandrogynousâ clothing for larger breasts. You have me, for one. And my friends (both real and Instagram hikers) who I heckled to give me quotes for this article. And if you need a little more inspiration, you have #transstyle on Instagram, which is worth following.
While we are not literally with you in the store, please know that we are with you in spirit. Tell yourself that you deserve to feel good about your body. That clothes should not be a punishment. And that so often the answer is to just increase the size and find some kind of cool half-tuck situation. That, or walk out of the store to buy a hot pretzel and listen to SOPHIE.
While that sounds like finding a sexless needle in a haystack, I promise you there are shirts for larger breasts. And if you’re looking for a button down shirt that doesn’t make your arms feel like stuffed sausages, wrap you around like a high-low dress from 2016, or do the damn button-down thing. , I’ve spoken to queer and / or transgender people about their favorite places to shop for shirts and put together some fun options for you.
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Goodthreads by Amazon
Shein Curve + Plus
KingSize (and “Big & Tall” men’s stores in general)
Etsy (and thrift stores in general)
Men’s clothing house
“I buy ‘tall and tall men’ and then increase an extra size to get the extra chest / background space I want.” – Sadie